Independent: Check. Confident: Check. Still unmarried in their late 20s and early 30s: Check. No, these are not western women; these traits actually refer to a growing number of modern Chinese women. Is this trend a sign that they are on their way to becoming exactly like the empowered women of the west? Are modern women of China likely to become as superficial and selfish as many western females and to abandon a lot of the traditional values that make them appealing to western men?
From a cultural perspective, independence, confidence, and aggressiveness are just some traits that are often attributed to western women. It is also typically western to delay marriage in order to focus more on one’s career goals. Oftentimes, women from the west are also characterized as being selfish and superficial and lacking many values that will make them ideal wives.
Ample evidence clearly demonstrates that an increasing number of modern women of China are becoming more “westernized.” Not only have many Chinese women become more financially successful all on their own, independent, confident in their abilities to get ahead in life, and ambitious; they have also started to go against many conventional norms.
This demonstration of independent thinking and individualism is most especially borne out by many Chinese women’s conscious choice to not hurry into marriage and starting a family, which is also a conscious choice to not give in to the pressures exerted by their family and society to do so and do so quickly.
They choose to spend their 20s and 30s pursuing career goals and financial independence. In fact, many modern women of China have proven themselves highly capable in fields/areas dominated by men; the number of Chinese women owning and chairing very successful businesses is growing. With these successes, these women are able to afford comforts and luxuries for themselves, and even their parents, without having to rely on a man/husband.
Additionally, they also choose to make love one of the more important considerations when choosing a mate, as compared to conforming to the traditional standards of their society.
Clearly, given these new facets in their personality, many modern Chinese women can be considered more westernized than traditional. But it would not be accurate to say that they are becoming more like western women in the sense that they are losing the aspects of their personality that still define them as “Chinese,” especially those aspects that make them more suitable and desirable as life partners than their western counterparts.
While many modern women of China are becoming more “westernized” in a lot of ways, this does not necessarily make them less “Chinese” or, more accurately, this does not make them lose their “essence” as Chinese women. In fact, it can be said that they are becoming better versions of the conventional Chinese woman and that they are setting the standards of an ideal Chinese woman and wife higher for everybody else.
While these women have developed traits that are often associated with western women, they have preserved many Chinese values that still make them better life mates, such as loyalty, commitment, and fortitude.
Perhaps it still remains to be seen if this trend of becoming more westernized will also make them selfish, superficial, and aggressive, among many other undesirable western traits; but it would be safe to say that, as long as they continue to hold on to their most precious traditional values, these women will only succeed in transforming into the best of both worlds.
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